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Emergerd. Sunod sunod ang blog post ko about my concerns. After this kwento, I shall make it up to you guys. I just need to let this out because I can’t sleep.
When I got home this evening, Anika casually told me that her male classmate slapped her face out of nowhere during their Music class.
The fuzz!!!
Anika said that she was sitting on her chair and writing on her notebook. This male classmate went up to her and suddenly slapped her face then went back to his seat. Anika cried kasi daw masakit. One of her class best friends saw her crying and asked what happened. Anika told her. Her best friend went to their teacher and told her. The music teacher talked to the both of them daw. Anika also told her class adviser what happened after that. The class adviser talked daw to the boy after school.
After hearing her kwento, I wanted to cry. I wanted to get mad. I know you guys can feel me right now. Masakit sa parent to know na may nanakit sa anak nila. Mas masakit for me because this was not the first time that boy hurt Anika.
A few weeks ago, Anika told me that the boy hit Anika’s face with his elbow. Sinasaway niya kasi wag magsulat sa black board. I told their class adviser about this and she said she will talk to the parents. I talked to Anika and told her na wag na masyadong magsaway ng magsaway. Feel na feel niya kasi na class president siya.
Kanina, I called the mom of the boy. I told her what happened. In fairness to the mom, she was very apologetic. Mabait naman. I also told the mom that sabi ni Anika, hindi naman sila magka-away ng anak niya so I do not understand why he is hurting Anika. Again, the mom apologized. Sabi ko sa kanya, I am scared baka the next time masaktan na talaga si Anika ng grabe. Parang hindi ko yata make-keri yun. Sabi ko please tell her son not to hurt Anika anymore. She apologized more. I can hear naman talaga the sincerity sa kanya. Hindi ako nagwarla because kahit papaano, maayos and humble kausap ang mom. Wala naman sigurong nanay ang may gustong may sinasaktan ang anak niya. I can feel that this is also hard for her.
But even if hindi ako nagwarla, I felt that I needed to put everything in writing and submit a letter to the school. Hindi naman pwedeng palagpasin ito. This should be put on record to ensure it will not happen again. As long as the children are in school, they are under their responsibility. Tama naman ako, di ba? I wrote a letter to Anika’s adviser, copy furnished the head teacher, guidance counsellor and the assistant principal. They should be aware na may mga ganitong ganap. I told them that I want to be informed what steps they are taking regarding this case. I want to be assured that they are doing something about it para hindi na maulit.
While Anika and I were having dinner kanina, I was looking at her.
ME: Anika, what did you do after he slapped you?
ANIKA: Nothing. I just cried.
ME: Baka anak, when somebody hurts you like that, you should fight back na. Nabubugbog ka eh.
She looked at me with her innocence radiating all over.
ANIKA: I don’t like to fight back, Nanay. That is bad.
ME: Pero baka ulitin lang ng ulitin sayo.
ANIKA: I won’t fight back, Nanay.
I stayed quiet.
ANIKA: What if Tatay hits you, will you fight back?
ME: Tatay will never hit me.
ANIKA: What if he does? Will you fight back?
ME: I am more than 100% sure he will never do that Anika. Boys should never hit girls. Remember that.
ANIKA: But what if nga he does?
ME: He won’t. Takot niya lang kay Wowa mo.
ANIKA: But what if he does? Will you fight back?
ME: Yes. I will fight back.
ANIKA: You shouldn’t. It’s bad to fight back.
Me: Sometimes anak, hindi masama to fight back.
ANIKA: Di ba nga in Jojo Siwa’s song? She said, “We don’t even fight back!”. So I will never fight back.
Siya na si Jojo Siwa talaga.
Anika is still in that stage na pure, mabait, kind hearted, innocent and I am so in love with her. Sa tingin ko, Alvin and I brought her up well. We raised her to be loving and compassionate. But in the same time, I am worrying. She needs to know when to say enough and be strong. Dapat marunong lumaban for self-defense lang. How to balance everything? That is the question.
Grabe, my head hurt from the stress. Iba if the kids are involved. My head is aching more now because I am anticipating my conversation with Alvin about this later when he gets home. Alvin is very, very, very overprotective of Anika. Baka magwarla siya. Anong baka, malamang magwawarla talaga yun. Ang sakit sa bangs grabe. Baka sumugod sa school yun. Kaloka.
I saw this funny meme that a fellow mom sent.
Very, very true =D Hehe.
P.S.
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Good night, guys.